Why You Know What to Do…But Still Don’t Do It

You know what to do.

You’ve made the plans.

You’ve started before.

So why do you still fall off?

In this short episode, I break down what’s actually happening when you can’t follow through and why it has nothing to do with discipline, motivation, or willpower.

This episode is pulled directly from the course work inside Back to You — the exact framework I use to help women stop abandoning themselves and finally follow through in real life.

Because the truth is...you’re not failing. You’ve been trying to build consistency on top of a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe.

Inside this episode:

• why knowledge isn’t your problem
• what’s really driving your behaviour (and it’s not mindset)
• why you “lose yourself” when things get hard
• the shift that actually helps you follow through

If you’ve ever thought, “I know what to do, so why am I not doing it?”

this will hit.

If this feels like you, Back to You was built for exactly this.

Waitlist opens Wednesday, April 15.: https://link.annejonescoaching.ca/back-to-you-waitlist-page

Feeling capable, but still falling off when life gets loud?

This podcast is for the woman who knows what to do, but keeps disconnecting from herself under pressure.

Around here, we talk about staying with yourself when motivation fades, building real capacity instead of pushing harder, and creating a life that feels steady, regulated, and yours, even in chaotic seasons.

No hustle. No performative discipline. No starting over every Monday.

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• Free Guide: The High-Achiever's Guide to Losing Fat Without Obsessing Over Food or Workouts: [https://www.annejonescoaching.ca/free-guide-your-body-your-way]

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Transcript

Speaker 0:00

if you're anything like the women who I work with, you already know what to do. You already know what to eat. You already know how to move your body, that we should strength train. You know a lot of things that would help. And yet. You don't follow through consistently or on all things. You maybe start strong and then fall off, or you do all the things, get overwhelmed and then shut down, or you make a plan and then abandon, or it doesn't feel good, and then you make that mean something about you, that you're inconsistent, that you lack discipline, that you're overwhelmed, that you just need to try harder or work harder, but that's not what's happening. What's actually happening is this. You have been trying to build consistency on top of a nervous system that doesn't feel safe, so of course it doesn't stick because your body will always choose comfort and safety over strategy. Some parts of this are going to feel relieving, like finally exhaling. And some parts might feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar because you're not used to relating to yourself in this way, you're going to have resistance. I did too. And that's okay. That doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. You're just doing something new. You do not have to do this perfectly. I want you to know you can't do this wrong. You do not have to keep up with anyone else. You are not behind. You cannot fall behind. You're not late, you're not missing anything. full permission, you can move through this at your own pace because the goal here is not speed, it is connection. There will be days where you don't do the work. There will be days, there will be weeks that feel messy. There will be moments where you forget absolutely everything I've said. That will happen. Nothing has gone wrong. When that happens, you didn't lose progress. You don't fall off track, you just come back. That's the practice coming back again and again and again. you are no longer the woman who abandons herself. When things get hard, you are becoming the woman who stays with herself, even when it's messy, even when it's imperfect, even when it's not going how you planned, even if somebody else doesn't like it. this work changes more than just your habits. It changes how you relate to yourself and others. And from that place, everything else becomes easier.

Speaker 4 2:01

You are trying to make good decisions from a nervous system that does not feel safe. when your body doesn't feel safe, it will override your best intentions every time. behaviour is not driven by knowledge. It is driven by state. So in a calm regulated state, you make thoughtful decisions. You follow through, you feel like yourself. But in a dysregulated state, everything changes. urgency replaces clarity, reactivity replaces intention. Short-term relief replaces long-term decisions.

Speaker 5 2:30

your patterns are not problems. They are protection. What is my body trying to protect me from right now? when you are anxious, overwhelmed, dysregulated, You can't think your way out. instead of forcing clarity, you create the conditions for clarity. Nothing has gone wrong if you've been reacting this way, I did too. That's what brought me to this work, I was being constantly reactive. Self-trust is built through small everyday moments where you pause, refrain. Notice and choose from a slightly more grounded place.

Speaker 3:00

you are becoming the woman who stays with herself.

Speaker 6 3:03

If you're listening to this and thinking, this is exactly where I lose myself, that is exactly why I created back to you. Registration for the wait list is open now, and VIPs on the wait list can join back to you this Wednesday, April 15th.